Victoria LeBlanc, Attached Parenting

As a mom, how do you prioritize your day?

My family is my top priority, there is not question about that. I plan my time carefully each day to ensure that I can be balanced in my work and home life. It is not easy but I do my best. I wouldn’t survive without lists and I do a lot of work while my children are asleep. I am blessed that I can run my business with children. I am a mom helping parents and sometimes I bring my kids along or have them present or in the background. That is just the stage that I am in right now and my clients have all been understanding and enjoy seeing me as another human, not just a business woman.

What made you decide to start your business or blog?

My business is focused on parent education and parent coaching. I am a licensed therapist specializing in family therapy, attachment, and trauma and have over a decade of experience. I started my career working with very difficult cases, my most recent experience being with adolescents who were removed from the home for having very serious behavioral issues. The common themes I found in all of the cases I worked with were either attachment issues or lack of healthy parenting skills. Once I became a parent myself I decided that I wanted to try to help parents before the problems became so bad that children had to be removed from the home. We all do our very best as parents and sometimes parents just need guidance in how they can do better for their children. So, I started teaching parenting classes and that has lead into now also offering parent coaching. I love helping families and am grateful that this work also allows me the ability to stay at home and be a great mom to my own children as well.

Who are your biggest influences?

My main influences are Karen Horney who theorized about the anxiety produced through interpersonal relationships and John Bowlby, the founder of attachment theory. My next biggest influences would be Barbara Nicholson and Lysa Parker, the co-founders of Attachment Parenting International. The knowledge I have learned and the experiences I have had working with children and families has motivated me to work with families at the beginning, when children are soaking up all that their environment delivers to them, and when we have the greatest chance at teaching them to be healthy, secure, compassionate and caring individuals.

What advice would you give moms who work from home?

You have to be organized, flexible, and realistic. My number 1 priority is my family and so my business takes a back burner to that sometimes and I that is exactly how I want it. I am blessed to be able to work from home but I don’t let my business interfere with my family life. I have to be the best mom to my kids because I only get this time with them once, I’m not willing to waste it. For me, that means that flexibility is something I just have to have. If my kids are having a rough day and need my attention then I may have to pause on business things and get them done later. I make sure that I don’t overschedule so that I have plenty of time for spending quality family time together. The only way I can accomplish all of that is by being organized. Lastly, I make sure that I follow what I teach to my clients, that is, having realistic expectations. It is important to be sure that I am realistic with my goals and with the tasks I set for myself. If I set the bar too high I will fail and cause undue stress. So, I set realistic goals, I stay organized, and I accept that life is unpredictable so I remain flexible.

What advice would you give moms who are working to start or build their business?

Do something you love. As a mom we have to choose wisely what we devote our time and energy to. Starting a business takes a lot of time and hard work and it will impact how to spend your time with your family. If you are going to start a business then make sure it is something that brings you joy and that you are excited to devote time in your day to.

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Is there anything else you want to share with the Mom Empire?

Being a mother is the most important job you will probably ever have, but it’s not everything. Don’t get lost in motherhood, allow yourself to comprised of other things too. Do things that make you happy and help you feel fulfilled. Build each other up, support and encourage one another, and be a role model for your children, because they are always watching.